My name is Roland and I live in Thousand Oaks, CA. I’m 39 years old and I have a 13 year-old daughter from a previous marriage. I had an American girlfriend for about 2 years. Things were going well and we were talking about moving in together, you know, taking the “next step.” One day she told me that she ran into an old friend (Bill) and that they went for drinks. I didn’t think anything of it really. We had been together long enough and I was pretty confident in terms of her feelings for me.
She started hanging out with this “old friend” more and more. I started to get suspicious when it seemed that she was hanging out with Bill more than with me. When I confronted her, she would swear up and down that Bill was just a friend. He was going through a bad break-up and just needed a shoulder to cry on.
Fast forward to one Saturday night when she was supposed to be having dinner at her mother’s house in Simi Valley, CA. I got a call from a mutual friend of ours. She told me that she was at a bar and was watching my girlfriend “getting cozy” with some guy in a booth! I drove down to the bar and there she was with Bill. I asked her why she lied to me. She said that she wasn’t doing anything wrong but that she felt she had to lie to me because if she told me that she was with Bill, I wouldn’t believe that it was innocent. Well, she was right. I didn’t believe it. Turns out, she and Bill quickly became more than friends and she left me about 2 weeks after that “bar incident.”
I was pretty heart broken. It was a major blow to my ego you know? She was choosing another guy over me! It was really hard to deal with and I kept thinking she would wake up and realize that she loved me. That day never came.
My story is probably not unlike a TON of other stories about infidelity. In fact, this wasn’t the first time that I’ve been cheated on or left by some girlfriend. I really started to think that there was something wrong with me.
I started looking online for dating sights. I decided it was time to try my luck at internet dating. I did a search for dating and came across this Russian dating site. I’ve always really had a thing for Russian women. They just seem so exotic and most of them are really beautiful. I think the language is really sexy too.
Anyway, I wasn’t sure how I was going to meet a girl from Russia. I live in California and I really wasn’t interested in a long distance relationship. Turns out that there are a lot of Russian women who are interested in meeting men from the U.S. I guess most Russian men think of their women as property and Russian women are sick of it. Most Russian women would kill for the chance to meet a man from the States. We just know how to treat a lady I think. We think of ourselves as fortunate to have a beautiful woman who loves us whereas I think that most Russian men think that it’s their right to have women. All I know is that this website was filled with tons of really beautiful Russian women who all wanted to meet a man from the U.S. and, if things worked out, most of them want to move here and get married.
I found a lady that I particularly liked. Her name is Veronica and she is 31 years old. She has two kids (2 and 4) from a previous marriage with a Russian man. I guess he was abusive to her and they have been divorced for about a year.
Veronica and I chatted online for a while and then I was able to call her. She and I spoke on the phone for about 2 weeks (you should see my phone bill) and then she invited me to come visit her in Russia! I’ve never been to Russia before but I couldn’t wait to go and finally meet her. I visited Veronica in Russia in the beginning of May, 2010. It was a little weird at first but we eventually warmed up to each other. Her kids are great. They are smart and playful and full of life! I stayed in Russia for 5 days and visited with Veronica every day that I was there. Since then, I’ve been back to see her twice.
Today is July 11, 2010 and Veronica and I are engaged. She is still in Russia but she is planning on coming to the States in mid-August. She will bring her kids when she comes and they will stay at my house. I don’t think she will be able to stay for good yet, only until her Visa runs out I think. We are having to jump through a lot of legal hoops to get her a visa and I honestly don’t know when she will be able to actually stay here and get her citizenship. All I know is that we are in love and it’s different than any other relationship I have ever been in. Russian women are just different than American women. They have family values and they aren’t caught up in what we look like or what kind of car we drive. Veronica is totally loving and caring and she makes me feel like a king. At first I was worried that maybe she was just using me to gain U.S. Citizenship but I’m absolutely positive that that’s not the case. I can’t wait to see her again.
If you are a man who is fed up with American women who are judgmental and materialistic, you might give Russian women a shot. I’m really happy that I did!